A few years ago I was speaking at a single ladies seminar. It was a room full of amazing, beautiful, intelligent, gifted women who were single (never married, divorced or widowed). I really enjoyed teaching and encouraging those women for 3.5 hours. They were eager to learn and eager to share. I have always believed that as a leader I also learn from the people I have the privilege to pour into.
At the end of the function a woman walked up to me. I could see her coming across the room. I admit I was a bit concerned because her lips were tight, she didn’t have a smile on her face and I couldn’t tell if she was upset or determined. She made her way around the chairs, around the women talking in groups, around the beverage and food table and walked up to me and said, I’m so sick and tired of being sick and tired mainly of myself. I keep going to these types of events and my life stays the same. She went on for a few minutes and I listened attentively while holding her arm. I could feel the frustration in her body energy. Finally, she said, I don’t know what the heck to do! After a long pause I said, “May I ask you a question?” She replied with exasperation, “Yes, please, if it will help me!”
What do you want your life to look like this time next year? And, What are you prepared to do differently starting now?
That started a conversation that went beyond the seminar that day. She was willing to answer those questions and through focused-coaching I helped her to move through the steps that it took to arrive at the place she wanted to be. We are often STUCK not because we want to be but because we are so overwhelmed, or unclear about our current situation or the direction we desire to go. One thing I know for sure, you don’t have to stay stuck. Clarity may be just a question away.
So let me ask you the same question:
What do you want your life to look like this time next year? And, What are you prepared to do differently starting now?
Take 15 minutes out of your schedule right now and grab a pad and pen. Write down those two questions above and right the answers that comes to mind. Don’t over think it. Don’t be afraid of the answers. Don’t try erase something because you don’t like the way it looks on paper. Be transparent and tell yourself the truth. That’s the best way to get to the results you desire.
Then, what will you do with the answers? Yes, I know that’s now a third question but it’s to help you.
I’m cheering you on!
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