With tears streaming down her face, she clinched her tissue tightly and with a quivering voice she said, “My hubby doesn’t know Jesus yet. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much and I want him to know Jesus like I do.” As she thought of what it would mean to his life now and for eternity, she cried even more. I wrapped my arms around her and began to cry out to God for her husband’s salvation. I called him by name. I spoke and prayed God’s word for her husband. When we finished praying I realized I was crying almost as hard as she was. Why? Because I once was her. I thank God for the many years my husband has walked with Him but I remember in the early years of our now, over 22 year marriage, that he didn’t know the Lord’; oh how I prayed and cried out for him. I also remember the day and everything that took place, when Jesus called his name and my husband Peter said, “Yes Lord”.
If you are a Christian woman who has an unsaved husband I want to encourage you in 4 ways:
1. Pray for your husband daily and often. Pray for his heart to be softened and opened to the presence and move of the Holy Spirit. Pray out of a heart of love and not frustration.
2. Trust in the Lord’s plan for your husband’s life. Be patient knowing that God is at work in ways you may not see; trust that He is at work in your husband’s life. One of the many Scriptures I leaned on when my hubby wasn’t saved yet was Proverbs 3:5 (AMP) “Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.”
3. Be a loving example of Christ for your husband to see. Don’t nag at him about going to church, reading the bible with you or watching Christian television but do let him see how much you love God and how much you love and value him as your husband. You’ll win him with love, kindness, patience and prayer before you’ll ever win him to Jesus with nagging, impatience and a negative attitude. 1 Peter 3:1-2 (NIV) Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
4. Keep growing in your own relationship with the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. The more you know their love and truth from the Word, the more you will love them and be able to share their love with your husband.
Remember, as much as you love your dear husband, God loves him even more. He is patient with your husband as He was with you (and with me) for He doesn’t desire that any one live spiritually dead or separated from His love and truth provided to us through the sacrifice of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. 2 Peter 3:8-9 (AMP) Nevertheless, do not let this one fact escape you, beloved, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years and a thousand years as one day. The Lord does not delay and is not tardy or slow about what He promises, according to some people’s conception of slowness, but He is long-suffering (extraordinarily patient) toward you, not desiring that any should perish, but that all should turn to repentance.
Don’t give up hope and don’t stop praying and living by loving-example. Love your husband with an unconditional love that comes only from God. See both of you in the mind of your heart, loving God and living for Him together. I did and for many years now my hubby and I have been doing just that—loving and living for God, together. I pray the same for you and your dear husband.