Titus 2:3-5 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
As a young couple raising our children we had challenges but the blessings far outweighed. However, I remember the times I felt overwhelmed, unheard and exhausted as a mother trying to meet everyone’s needs and feeling inadequate at times. I didn’t have a network of Godly women around me to lean on. Grandma went to the Lord when my oldest was 3.5 shortly thereafter I was married and in time added another child and at times I felt alone as a Mommy. I did all I could to love and nurture them along with my hubby but there were moments when I could have used a Christ-centered mature aged woman’s wisdom to pour into my soul. Now, I’m a Grandma of two and I pour into them and their parents and it caused me to think about all of the other young mothers who need to be supported with the day-to-day parts of parenting while celebrating the blessings of being a Mommy.
Recently, on my Facebook page I asked, What would be your biblical advice and personal experience that you would share with young mothers today raising young children in the society and times that we live in? Listed below are a few of the answers:
- “There’s one thing I picked up along the way that comes to mind. Remember not to think of all the unexpected conversations, needs, wants, whims and disasters, as interruptions to your day. As a mom, these things are kinda the point.” V.J.
- “Don’t worry about what others do…focus on what “GOD would have you do regarding raising your children/grandchildren!” A.B.P.
- “If it won’t matter in 20 years, don’t sweat it!” And… (my bias will show here:) Do not rely on books written by child-rearing experts or psychologists. GOD wrote the book on child rearing. HIS ways are best. Godly children have come and gone through the centuries with no care by their mothers to what the popular culture or trend of the day was.” E.B.G.
- “Don’t buy into the belief that teenagers *must* rebel and so you give up on them. Keep loving them and keep holding them to standards and boundaries. Don’t think that disrespect is o.k. because “they’re teenagers and they’re *supposed* to behave that way.” Give them grace and room to grow and test their wings a bit, but still keep some guidelines and expectations of behavior, and let your love be a safety net beneath their wings, to catch them if/when they fall.” N. L.
I also added my own thoughts below…
- Pray for them now and pray for their future. Pray for God’s purposes for them. Pray for their future spouses and children. Pray for them to say no to the temptation to sin in various areas as they are growing up. Love them, nurture them, SAY I love you daily and often. Lead by example. When you blow it, ask God to forgive you and when the circumstances call for it, apologize to your children too. Let them SEE JESUS at work in you. I was taught, “Do as I say not as I do” and that “kids were meant to be seen not heard” and I don’t believe that is healthy teaching therefore we did not raise our children that way. We welcomed our children’s voices but with respect and love. You don’t own your kids. They are not your property so treat them with love and care. They, like you, belong to GOD.
- Please don’t discipline out of anger. When you are angry, pause and take a breath because if you say something it can make a long lasting impression on them. Finally, all the details are not that important (dishes, cleaning, working, etc.), do what you need to but don’t let anything come before a hug and a kiss to your child. Don’t let anything come before you pause and answer the child’s voice that calls your name, “Mommy, Mommy”. They will grow up faster than you think so treasure every moment now even the challenging ones. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you have rough moments in parenting. You are not alone. Trust in God’s leading. He will direct your path.” LS
I once was a single young Mom. I’ve been a Mom for 27 years and 23 of those years (and counting), a married Mom. During the course of those years I worked inside and outside the home in business and in ministry but my family was always my first priority, and I can tell you that whatever category you fall in; all Mother’s need support especially young and first-time Mom’s. The best support is found when one woman turns around and extends her hand to another woman or young lady to help her to be the best at what God has called her to do including parenting.
Do you have any tips to encourage young Mom’s? Be sure to share below and be a blessing to someone else.