Eye of the beholder


By Isunji Cardoso

Then God said, “Let us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness… Gen 1:26a (NKJV)

“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well.” Psalm 139:14 (NKJV)

One of the things off and on through the years is my self-image. Most women can say the same thing. Considering the images and standards of beauty that we see in the media, it’s no wonder. From an early age girls think that they need to look like the images they see in order to be considered beautiful. Sometimes they even resort to harmful solutions trying to achieve the unrealistic standard.

As a Christian woman (and a perfectionist), my battle with self-image is more often related to my actions. I tend to set a high standard for myself, sometimes impossibly high, and when I fall short I am my own worst critic. I become disappointed with myself and frustrated at my shortcomings and before I know it I am beating myself up.

When those times come, I have to go back to the Source and remember what God says about me. I need to reroute my thoughts about how I see myself and line them up with the Word of God. So, on the days when I way up and nothing I try on looks right in my eyes, I have to pause and remind myself that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. When I fall short of the goals I have set for myself, I stop and reflect on the fact that I am made in the image of God.


Of course it is an ongoing process. It takes time and practice to unlearn years of incorrect thinking, but it is possible. The next time you feel like you are less than in any way, take a breath and then reflect on how beautiful you are in the Father’s eyes. When you look at yourself through the Eye of the Beholder it changes your perspective from a lie to the truth.

I’ve seen so many messages lately about the importance of speaking kindly to ourselves and loving ourselves. When we do this according what God says about us we free ourselves to live the abundant life of beauty that Christ came to give us.

Is there something that you are believing about yourself today that doesn’t line up with what God says about you? Is there something that you have been saying about yourself that contradicts what God thinks of you? Why not take a moment to shift your perspective. Meditate on His Word concerning the matter and watch things change for you!


Isunji Head Shot - Version 2Isunji Cardoso started writing when she was just 8 years old. Her third grade teacher asked the class to write an original story. Her story was a hit with the class, and a writer was born! Isunji describes herself a a word-nerd who believes in the power of a good story to touch hearts, educate minds, lift spirits and even change the world. The Lord has given her many stories that she hopes to release to the world as He leads. In February 2013 Isunji published her first book, a devotional called Faith Lifts: 31 Daily Boosts for Sagging Faith which is now available for purchase. The book is designed to encourage, inspire, entertain, and, most importantly, to refresh the weary spirit. Please connect with Isunji on Twitter or Facebook.com/isunjicardoso2

9 Responses to Eye of the beholder

  1. A beautiful post and one that is helpful to me and I’m sure most women. How important it is to read God’s Word to discover what He says and not go by the world’s standards. When I remember who I am in Him, I realize I am accepted and loved. It’s amazing how much time, effort and worry we waste trying in our flesh to measure up. I am also a work in progress but the more I study His Word, the more I realize it’s Him working in me and through me that makes a difference for His Kingdom.

    I loved your message Isunji!

    Blessings and love,

  2. Isunji, you tapped into a large part of what my ministry work has been for two decades…helping women to really see themselves through God’s eyes–the eyes of the Word not the world. Love you girl!

  3. Oh. My. Goodness. I need to read this every day! What a powerful message. I have greatly disliked the way I look ever since I was in 4th grade and people (peers in my classroom) started bringing it to my attention that my nose was MUCH bigger than anyone else’s!! Even as a senior citizen now it still bothers me. I know I am just the way God saw fit to make me but I’m sure I think about my self image too much. Thank you for this encouragement today!! And by the way…I think you are a beautiful lady. 🙂

    • Thank you so very much for your comments Marilyn. I am so glad God encouraged you through my words. You truly are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of the Father and “He don’t make no junk!” 😉 Have an abundantly blessed week! 🙂

  4. It is so easy to get caught up in external “beauty” and what the world considers attractive. But how our hearts are shaped is so much more important. Living as Christ wants us to and remembering that we “are fearfully and wonderfully made” by a God who loves us and chose to make us because it pleased Him, is more beautiful than anything!

    Blessings, Joan

  5. You shared a subject which most women including myself, can truly relate to. The images the world parades through magazines and media are so different than the average girl or woman could ever attain. My own self image caused me years of emotional heartache…even affecting those I love. Knowing how beautiful I am in Gods eyes finally became the reason for a change in my thinking! Blessed to now understand He created each of us with unique qualities in order that we might use our hearts to draw others to Him.

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