Are you too hard on yourself?


1 Samuel 16:7 (AMP) But the Lord said to Samuel, Look not on his appearance or at the height of his stature, for I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees; for man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.

Many times women see themselves based on what others have said about them,  how they’ve been treated and the lies that the enemy (our adversary) spews into their thoughts.  All too often women judge themselves by their weight, shape, facial features, hair, their social, educational and economic status, and even based on whether or not they have children. And if that’s not bad enough we see the harsh critique among us as women.

At times women even harshly critique each other based on their parenting and schooling decisions, how they manage their homes, working or not working, ministry roles, accomplishments and the accomplishments of their children.  This may further enhance feelings of inadequacy and even jealousy toward other women because many women compare themselves to each other.  That is so dangerous to do and not biblical. The enemy wants us to compare ourselves and feel inadequate in the various roles we live.

God made us each uniquely different and each one of us are precious in His sight and valuable to Him.  The world (society) may accept or reject you based on some of what I shared above; but the truth is you do not need validation from people when you have already been validated by God.

When Samuel was searching for the next king, per God’s directive, as he saw Jesse and seven of his sons, he began to think about which one it could be but God cautioned him that the world looks upon the outer appearance but God looks at the heart.  God’s heart was connected with David the youngest who was out in the fields tending to the sheep.  Sometimes the one people least expect is the one God has His eye on!

Ever wonder why God wants to use your life for something amazing?  Ever feel like you’re not the right one? You think about your past, what was done to you or what you engaged in and you think to yourself, “there’s no way God would want to use my life now for His glory”.  Perhaps you feel that your body size, age, social or education status puts you in a class below other women. Stop it. Please stop thinking that way about yourself.  As I shared in my book: You Are Beautiful In God’s Eyes, “you are bright, brilliant and beautiful in God’s eyes”.  When He looks at you He sees His treasured child. He adores you. Yes He does. Time to believe it.  Time to believe Him.

He sees your heart toward Him.

Lisa Shawa>

12 Responses to Are you too hard on yourself?

    • Amen Laura Lee. I love this truth-filled wisdom as well. God desires that we know His truth, believe it and live it my friend. Thank you for visiting, reading, commenting and encouraging me! I love you and so thankful for having you in my life! Can’t wait to see you this Summer!!! 🙂

    • That is so true Leah. I think we all need a refresher on His truth over and over again. Even though I know this amazing truth there are times the enemy will shoot off his lies either through my thoughts or the hurtful words of others and I’m right back having to remind myself that God doesn’t see me the way the WORLD DOES but the way His WORD does!!! How awesome is that!!!! Love you and appreciate you stopping in and encouraging me as well! 🙂

  1. Couldn’t agree more, Lisa! Can’t hear this truth enough.

    The more we hear it, the more we will speak it to ourselves when the lies come to call!

    Thank you!

    • Amen Cheri, as one who has ministered to women for close to two decades, and am a woman myself 🙂 I know it’s necessary for us to hear the truth and to believe it and walk in it!

      Bless you and thanks for the visit and comment.

  2. A wonderful, encouraging post! Thanks for the reminder that we ONLY need validation from God. That is something I need to continually remind myself of. God bless!

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