A Wedding Dance with Redemption

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1_AugustBy Elaine Olsen

My eldest son got married two weeks ago. It was a grand affair. Quaint. Intimate. On a mountain and in the company of family and friends. I thought a lot about my son that day while sitting next to his father in our designated, front pew. We had the best seat in the house, but then again, in sharing life with this extraordinary twenty-five-year-old man we call “son”, we’ve always had the best seat in the house. What a privilege to watch him grow over the years and to witness him standing before his bride and speaking his oath to love her for the rest of his earthly days. It’s a day I won’t forget, one that sows deeply into the soil of my heart and that heralds a grand “hallelujah” for the grace that has passed ahead, within, and behind us, low these many years.

It takes a lot of grace to grow a boy into a man. Our story is no exception. In fact, our story begs for grace, has relied upon grace to get us to this season in our lives – a day when two parents, who once made those same sacred vows to one another only later to break them, were able to sit side-by-side and celebrate the child born out of their love. You can imagine the baggage that I carried into that chapel two weeks ago, the internal wrestlings that were begging to take the stage. But it wasn’t a day for baggage and wrestlings. It was a day for grace and for making peace with a past that I cannot change but, instead, can honor for the fruit that has blossomed despite my disobedience.

This was and continues to be my wedding dance with redemption, when the past works for me instead of against me. When the glass is less dim and more transparent. When I can see clearly through the brokenness to gather up some wholeness. When the Groom extends his hand and his heart in my direction and repeats the oath he spoke to me in the past saying:

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving kindness.
I will build you up again and you will be rebuilt, O Virgin Israel.
Again you will take up your tambourines and go out to dance with the joyful.
Again you will plant vineyards on the hills of Samaria; the farmers will plant them and enjoy their fruit.” (Jeremiah 31:3-5)

This is my “again” . . . again – one of the many agains I have known because of the mercy-filled, extended hand of my Groom, Jesus Christ. His love is timeless, knows no boundaries, and never tires of the grace-dance. Instead, his love is ready.

Ready to draw me in.
Ready to rebuild me.
Ready to re-teach me the sacred melody.
Ready to sow within me the seeds of eternity.

Christ’s love is ready, and Christ’s love is enough to carry any broken and burdened soul through to present wholeness. He loves his bride, and his oath is his word. No sin and no shame are a match for his strong affection and sacred affirmation. Love wins the day, and the Groom takes his Bride.

A wedding dance with redemption. The grace-dance with the Redeemer. My dance. Your dance. God’s dance.

Won’t you take hold of his hands, friends, and take hold of your tambourines? The music’s been cued. The wine’s been poured. And the Groom has given you his word . . .

This is for forever.

Hallelujah! Amen. So be it. As always . . .

Peace for the journey,
Elaine

IMG_7392 (640x427)F. Elaine Olsen is a writer, speaker, Bible-study teacher, cancer survivor, mom of four, and preacher’s wife. Elaine calls the Kentucky Bluegrass her home, even though she now lives in North Carolina. She enjoys long walks, extended bubble baths, morning chats with Jesus, the creativity of others, and times of refreshing in the mountains of Tennessee. Elaine has written two books, Peace for the Journey (2010) and Beyond the Scars (2014), and is currently lending her pen and heart to the process of writing her third book. She crafts words with the Creator at www.PeaceForTheJourney.com.

 

15 Responses to A Wedding Dance with Redemption

  1. A wedding dance with redemption. What a beautiful thing! I love how you wrote about how special this day was to see your grown son marry his bride. I’m so glad the baggage and wrestling didn’t take over. Instead there was grace and love. How like our Jesus who loves us and forgives. A beautiful post Elaine. So glad you joined us this month.

    Blessings and love,
    Debbie

  2. Elaine,
    I’m always drawn to your writing just at the right time! The words that the Holy Spirit gave to you is a beautiful reminder of how our Lord will renew “all things” when we let Him.

    In His Grace~Tammy

  3. ♪ Beautiful, beautiful, Jesus is beautiful…and Jesus makes beautiful things of my life….Tenderly. Touching me. Causing my eyes to see ♪ (Do you know/remember this song?)

  4. While your entire message is full of powerful nuggets of wisdom, what rings loudly is the transparency and realness you poured forth here:

    “It takes a lot of grace to grow a boy into a man. Our story is no exception. In fact, our story begs for grace, has relied upon grace to get us to this season in our lives – a day when two parents, who once made those same sacred vows to one another only later to break them, were able to sit side-by-side and celebrate the child born out of their love. You can imagine the baggage that I carried into that chapel two weeks ago, the internal wrestlings that were begging to take the stage. But it wasn’t a day for baggage and wrestlings. It was a day for grace and for making peace with a past that I cannot change but, instead, can honor for the fruit that has blossomed despite my disobedience.”

    Love you my friend Elaine.

  5. Congratulations again, Elaine. This post really touched my heart – last November, my oldest son also got married. And yes, I was drawn into my past. This line was my story, too: “…a day when two parents, who once made those same sacred vows to one another only later to break them, were able to sit side-by-side and celebrate the child born out of their love.” I chose that day to focus on God’s great gift of healing and forgiveness, and not on mistakes.

    And when I danced with my son, I felt the arms of my blessed Redeemer wrapping around all of us with His love.

    GOD BLESS!

  6. What a beautiful testimony Elaine. Such a special day, and God’s grace was all over it, as those who love this son celebrated, a real life story of how God works all things for good, His good and ours, and it always brings glory to Him. I know you were a proud mama and there will be so many blessed days ahead as your family grows.

    xo

  7. Thanks, everyone, for being here today and sharing these words of encouragement. It’s been a very emotional season for our family, but a good one. “Liquid Joy” as my friend, Dionne, calls it. I’m so grateful for the many moments of deep peace God has given to me in this time . . . many snapshots of the “greater things” he speaks about in his Word. Blessings to you all as we continue down the grace-road and as you continue in your wedding dance with redemption! God is good.

  8. What another beautiful post this is. To be reminded of how you have failed, and to be reminded that you have been redeemed. A wedding dance indeed – looking at the past not with regret, but with grace. Truly a gift from God – to be so reminded graphically that He is the God who re-creates our past for us, no matter how broken it may have been. There is always room for hope. And newness of life.

  9. Ah, precious Elaine…once again you bring us an eternal lesson, a glimpse of Christ’s Grace to sustain us! Thank you for sharing this precious experience with us so that our eyes will be open and expectant for similar situations in our own lives. My tambourine is ready! Come let us we dance together in celebration of our Groom! Hallelujah!

  10. Elaine I love your words,” It takes a lot of grace to grow a boy into a man.” Being a mother of a young adult son, you totally captured the parenting (and marital and spiritual ) journey..

  11. Everything about Nick and Chelsea’s wedding day was heart-warming and soul satisfying.
    Love,
    Rosalie and Bill

  12. What a beautiful, sweet testimony to the perfect work of forgiveness the Lord has complete in, and through you. I rejoice as you rejoice ~ lump in my throat and all.

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